Valentines & More: Top image: promo artwork for London’s Haus of Cabaret which is hosting multiple fetish-influenced nights during February, including Pony Club Cabaret and Kabaret Exposé

VALENTINES & MORE! 12 FEB FETISH EVENTS IN LONDON & REST OF UK

If you’re reading this Valentines & more article as a UK fetish partygoer, then according to Torture Garden, it’s pretty likely that in recent times you’ve been waiting until much closer to event dates before committing to buying tickets. In this post-covid, cost of living crisis-hit era, that change of habits — as the club noted in its New Year statement (reported in our January 17 blog story here) — seems to be “universal across the clubbing and nightlife worlds in general”.

At the time of writing, two weeks before TG’s two big London Valentine’s weekend parties on February 14 and 15, neither event had yet sold out, when once they surely would have. So this seems to confirm that in early 2025, fetish partygoers are still being more cautious about shelling out for tickets. On the plus side, however, this means that if you’d ideally prefer to mark this traditional romantic occasion at a kinky event of some kind, but have been a bit slow to commit, it’s not yet too late to get onboard!

In this Valentines & more roundup, therefore, we have focused on UK fetish events happening throughout the month of February. Some are specifically themed as Valentine’s nights; others aren’t, but could still be co-opted for romantically kinky purposes by the sufficiently determined.

We’ve found a dozen February events to tell you about — six in London and six outside the capital — and there’s quite a mix of event styles to choose from too. If extravagant London fetish balls are not your thing, in this roundup you’ll also find two fetish markets with after-parties, two new kink-inspired cabaret nights, a bi-kink orgy, a ‘hair play’(!) event, a couple of small-scale, more intimate parties, a couple of opportunities to be kinky at the seaside and, last but not least, an evening talk in the company of a famous kink psychologist.

Top image: promo artwork for London’s Haus of Cabaret which is hosting multiple fetish-influenced nights during February, including Pony Club Cabaret and Kabaret Exposé

February fetish events in London

Promo image, left, for Pony Club Cabaret, at Haus of Cabaret on February 01, 06, 07 & 08. Right: a striking image by @flesh.and.more being used by Torture Garden as an example of ‘monochrome’ dress as encourageded for its two Valentines Monochrome Balls on February 14 & 15Promo image, left, for Pony Club Cabaret, at Haus of Cabaret on February 01, 06, 07 & 08. Right: a striking image by @flesh.and.more being used by Torture Garden as an example of the ‘monochrome’ look encouraged for its two Valentines Monochrome Balls on February 14 & 15

February 01, 06, 07 & 08

PONY CLUB CABARET – THE REIGNS ARE OFF
Haus of Cabaret, 1 Mark Lane, London EC3R 7AH
Pony Club Cabaret (above left) promises to be a night where the stage burns with raw energy, untamed sensuality, and the bold spirits of London’s underground (and they don’t mean the Tube network!). The hosts invite you to step into a world of polished perfection and primal passion, where seductive sirens weave their wicked spells, fire artists ignite the night, and diamond-draped showgirls dazzle with unrelenting allure. “It’s fetish. It’s flame. It’s ferocious glamour,” they say, “where grit meets glitz in the heart of the city. This isn’t a show you simply watch. It’s an attitude you wear.”
More info and tickets here

February 02

LAM (LONDON ALTERNATIVE MARKET)
Sway, 61-65 Great Queen Street, London WC2B 5BZ
Comprising a market featuring more than 30 vendors and an after-party, the second LAM of 2025 opens at noon, with the usual Newbie Orientation and a 90-minute Healthy Mental Practices session hosted by Cosmic1 at 2pm. The afternoon continues with a Haus of Kaiser workshop at 4pm, focused on dom/sub dynamics and relationship maintenance, and a Peer Rope LAMdon session at 5:30pm. If you’re just there for the shopping you’ll find some brands that are usually also at Le Boutique Bazaar; however, the LBB originally set for today was cancelled owing to venue refurbishment. The LAM after-party kicks off downstairs at around 7pm, featuring a dedicated rope room and a well-equipped dungeon for play enthusiasts.
More info and tickets here

February 14 & 15

TORTURE GARDEN VALENTINE’S 1 – MONOCHROME BALL
Electrowerkz, 7 Torrens St, London EC1V 1NQ
February 14 sees the first of TG’s two Valentine’s Monochrome Balls, whose titles are a strong hint to the monochrome dress theme the hosts are encouraging everyone to follow. Black and white (as shown above right) is an obvious choice, but TG suggest that any other narrow colour palette would also fit the bill. (Non-themed full-fetish outfits are always welcome too, of course!). MC Rhys’s Piece will introduce an Eliz Presents courtyard installation, Monique Fei debut fashion show and Syban Valentines show.
More info and tickets here

TORTURE GARDEN VALENTINE’S 2 – MONOCHROME BALL
Electrowerkz, 7 Torrens St, London EC1V 1NQ
February 15 reprises the monochrome theme outlined above. MC Lolo Brow will introduce TG debuts by Shanghai drag activist Yihao and TG Berlin stalwart Felicity Felis plus more acts TBA.
More info and tickets here

Valentines & more: Promo image, left, for Kabaret Exposé at Haus of Cabaret on February 20, 21, 22, 27 & 28. Right: Harness & Mane head mistress Gunel demonstrates what could go on at the salon’s Hairplay event on February 22Promo image, left, for Kabaret Exposé at Haus of Cabaret on February 20, 21, 22, 27 & 28. Right: Harness & Mane head mistress Gunel demonstrates what could go on at the salon’s Hair Play event on February 22

February 20, 21,22, 27 & 28

KABARET EXPOSÉ
Haus of Kabaret, 1 Mark Lane London EC3R 7AH
In the tantalizing world of Kabaret Exposé (above left), the code word ‘Mistress’ unlocks the gates to London’s cabaret underworld, a realm devoid of safe words. Will you submit to the house mistress or dominate the night? With daring fire displays and enchanting choreography, Kabaret Exposé celebrates taboos and invites you to explore your own dark side. Promised is an evening of delicious food and libations to fire up your sensual spirit while you’re spellbound by edgy fetish acts that leave you breathless and craving more.
More info and tickets here

February 22

HAIR PLAY PARTY
Harness & Mane Fetish Hair Salon, 289 Forest Road, London E17 6HD
Harness & Mane’s Hair Play Party will be a place to explore, learn about and play with all things hair fetish! The host is Gunel Kelly, head mistress of Harness & Mane, and guest speaker will be Fiona Foyer, also a hair fetish enthusiast. Together they’ll introduce the world of hair fetish and facilitate play and exploration of your hair fetishes with likeminded people in this safe and kinky hair salon space. The full hair salon — sinks, shampoos, capes, rope, cage, brushes and other tools if needed — will be at the disposal of guests, who can also bring their own favourite tools). Experienced players are welcome along with newbies to hair fetish.
More info and tickets here

February 28

BIZARRE EVENTS: BI-KINK CLUB NORTH LONDON
Venue notified to ticketholders
This private, members-only party is for bisexual or bi-curious kinky fetishists, tailored for LGBTQ+ people and their allies — which means bisexual/LGBTQ+ males and females, TG/TS, CD/TV, non-binary, gender-fluid or otherwise diverse people of any other gender identity. These adult parties are for seasoned players as well as newbies wishing to play in a safe, secure, sane, sexy and non-judgmental environment, and for those who would like to experience their darker desires and (legal) extreme fantasies in real life. Bi-kink activity is explicitly invited, although no one is expected to partake in anything they’re not comfortable with. A paid membership, valid for 12 months, must be taken out when first attending or first reserving admission.
More info and reservations here

February fetish events in rest of UK

Club Lash, above left, hosts its Intimate Valentine Party in the Manchester area on February 8. Right: Dr Lori Beth Bisby will host two talks in her Psychology of Fetish and Kink Seedtalk series in Oxford on February 12 and Birmingham on February 13Club Lash, above left, hosts its Intimate Valentine Party in the Manchester area on February 8. Right: Dr Lori Beth Bisbey will host two talks in her Psychology of Fetish and Kink Seedtalk series in Oxford on February 12 and Birmingham on February 13

February 8 Greater Manchester        

LASH INTIMATE VALENTINE PARTY
The Manchester Chambers, Lord Street, Ashton under Lyme, Greater Manchester OL6 8LS
Lash (above left) is the North West’s premiere alternative and fetish club night, offering a safe space for anyone to explore BDSM, a place where all are welcome and a place where all are respected. Events nights are held monthly in Ashton under Lyme with occasional larger events in Manchester City Centre. Club Lash was established in 1998 by four women who wanted to develop a space that would allow people of all genders and sexualities to meet together, and to have somewhere to live out SM/fetish fantasies. It is a friendly, open, non-judgemental environment; it is not a swingers club or a sex club, but welcomes all polite perverts.
More info and tickets here

February 09 Bristol

SWAMP IN BRISTOL
OMG, 1 Frog Lane/Frogmore Street, Bristol BS1 5UX
Swamp events comprise an afternoon market and evening social/play party on the second Sunday of every month. The Swamp party is a strict dresscode event, but if you only want to attend the afternoon market (admission £3, usually including a demo or workshop), there is no dresscode. The £10 party ticket includes admission to the market. Swamp offers a clean, safe club with plenty of socialising areas, served by a bar stocking a full range of alcoholic drinks plus soft drinks, tea and coffee. The venue has separate public and private dungeon areas, both of which run approximately 7pm–10pm. Admission is by cash only on the front desk; the bar accepts cash and cards.
More info here

February 12 Oxford + February 13 Birmingham

THE PSYCHOLOGY OF FETISH AND KINK – DR LORI BETH BISBEY
Feb 12: Saïd Business School, Park End Street, Oxford OX1 1HP
Feb 13: The Glee Club, 70 Hurst Street Birmingham B5 4TD
In these two Valentines-adjacent talks in her Psychology of Fetish and Kink Seedtalk series, GSRD (gender, sex and relationship diversity) specialist Dr Lori Beth Bisbey (above right) aims to demystify topics often shrouded in taboo and misunderstanding, and answer the oft-asked question: am I normal? The talk promises to reveal the psychological and social factors that drive fetish and kink behaviours and explore the ways in which individuals who engage in these practices experience pleasure and fulfilment. She will also offer practical steps on how to explore your own desires, communicate with partners and deal with any feelings you have around this aspect of sexuality.
More info and tickets here

Celebrated latex artist Michelle Mildenhall (left) grabs a quick snog at House of Spank, whose Bloody Valentines party take place in Brighton on February 14. Right: Best Dressed winners at Birmingham Bizarre Bazaar, whose Circus themed event takes place on February 16

February 14 Brighton

HOUSE OF SPANK: BLOODY VALENTINES
Revenge, 32-34 Old Steine, Brighton and Hove BN1 1EL
Spank’s Bloody Valentines party (above left) is said to be taking inspiration from the My Bloody Valentine film. But the original or the remake? We don’t know! “Think valentine meets cutsie gore meets fetish wear!” the host proclaims, adding: “If in doubt, go with full-on fetish wear!” (And indeed, being dressed in ‘all fetishwear’ is a requirement for entry.) As well as the DJs keeping the dancefloor buzzing, there’ll be a reasonably-priced cash-only photo booth for private photo shoots of guests’ outfits. The Spanking Parlour with a dungeon monitor will be at your disposal, plus a shibari corner “for ties for the brave or the intrigued”. As always, we’re promised there’ll be a few walkabout acts and surprises too.
More info and tickets here

February 16 Birmingham

BIRMINGHAM BIZARRE BAZAAR – CIRCUS
The Nightingale Club, Kent Sreet, Birmingham B5 6RD
For February, Brum’s legendary fetish market has chosen a Circus theme for those who want to dress up — it’s not compulsory, but there are Best Dressed prizes to be won! This event (above right) will also see the introduction of a newbie/quiet hour from 11am to noon. Those who need to get their bearings first can join the venue tour and discover not just vendors but also bars, gardens and cafés all under one roof,. There’ll be performances, demos, house photographer and more. The ‘more’ includes three munches and two stage shows by Coco Deville. The market is followed at 6pm by the After Party on the venuer’s lower floors. Admission is by cash only and be advised that some of the market’s traders take cards and/or PayPal but others, like the BBB door, take cash only.
More info here

February 28 Brighton

ZDR – VINTAGE GLAMOUR
Hotel Pelirocco, 10 Regency Square, Brighton and Hove BN1 2FG
Zara DuRose has just announced that all rooms at the Hotel Pelirocco where her Vintage Glamour seaside getaway takes place at the end of the month are now sold ou.t But a few tickets are still available for the event itself. She invites you to step through the doors to be transported back in time to an era of classic Hollywood elegance, retro sophistication and a touch of kink! Attractions lined up for the night include burlesque artist and storyteller Odelia Opium (below), a shibari installation by Yutori Shibari featuring Dolly & Hetty, and burlesque artist/singer Lucy Diamondz aka The Botanical Bombshell.
More info and tickets here